Steps In Mommyhood

Adventures of a First Time Mom

I’m Not A Mommy Wasteland

My stretch marks are marks of courage and strength. My hollow, flabby stomach is the deserted home of my greatest accomplishment. My now-larger thighs and rock-hard, wider calves are the carriers of a happily burdened superhero.

I swore to myself that I wouldn’t look at my stomach and my thighs with anything but pride, and I did really well with this creed for many moons, allowing myself time to adjust without pressure. Well, here I am today, staring at my extra bits here and flabby bits there. I can feel the pressure building to get back to before.

Where does this pressure come from? Why does it drop in? Media? Friends? Family? Doctors? I frequently hear how great I look post-baby. I’ve been to the doctor a handful of times since having BabyJ, my most recent weighing at the doctor being a couple weeks ago. She said it all looks good, too. 

So, is it all on me?

I’m working back to that place where I can look at my tummy, hips, and thighs and be fine with them. My extra bits are beautiful. They’re the remnants of my courage and nature. I did something incredible. I brought a baby into this world. My body is proof of that.

Time to stop looking at my body and shaming myself, and start seeing the awe of what I did.

Share your body/mind stories in the comments below. Let’s create a support system for each other instead of perpetuating the negativity.


A-to-Z Reflections

Well, for my first A-to-Z on this blog I’d say I did alright. Unfortunately I didn’t anticipate the course I was taking for my grad program to be so involved and take up so much of my time. I finished the challenge over on my book blog a little late, but still finished. This one wasn’t so fortunate. I just looked in my drafts folder and saw some letter posts sitting there half-finished. These were the nights I fell asleep at my laptop. Haha.

I love how many new followers I gained through this challenge and hopefully next year I can push through until the end. I planned so much better this year with my list of planned posts; next year I will push to write them ahead of time and schedule the posts.

Hindsight and all that. 

One amazing thing that came out of this was finding out some of my posts really helped people. Having a deep impact and helping someone is an incredible feeling. If I can touch just one person with my posts, I’ve succeeded. 

Welcome to my new followers, and thank you to all who participated and commented. Stay active, it helps me keep up! 😀

Book Review: What Do You Do With an Idea by Kobi Yamada


What Do You Do With an Idea?
 Kobi Yamada
Illustrator: Mae Besom

Publication Date: 2014
Genre: Children’s Literature

This is the story of one brilliant idea and the child who helps to bring it into the world. As the child’s confidence grows, so does the idea itself. And then, one day, something amazing happens.

This is a story for anyone, at any age, who’s ever had an idea that seemed a little too big, too odd, too difficult. It’s a story to inspire you to welcome that idea, to give it some space to grow, and to see what happens next. Because your idea isn’t going anywhere. In fact, it’s just getting started.
Cross-Posted on Livre It To Me Book Review Blog

I came home to find an unexpected box from Michele G. Miller on my doorstep the other day. Inside were four of her books that I did editing work on, as well as two adorable gifts for BabyJ. The first was a cute TY stuffed puppy. The other was an author-signed copy of What Do You Do With an Idea? by Kobi Yamada. I had a feeling, just by taking a quick flip through the book, that this book would be a stand-out among the rest of BabyJ’s books; this feeling was overwhelmingly proven when I read it to him today.

What Do You Do With an Ideais a beautifully written children’s book with creative, captivating illustrations. BabyJ and I were hooked from the first page. The style is straightforward, no poetry or pattern, simply great narration and adorable thought. I love that the idea is a character and not just a notion. Ideas grow and develop, just like people. Beautiful. Thoughtful. A great lesson for the youngest, oldest, and anywhere-in-between-est of readers.

This book would make a great gift for a baby shower, birthday, or something else. 


The Final Countdown – 5 Stars!




(M) Me Time

One thing I’ve learned over the last few months is how important it is for me to take time to myself. I don’t necessarily mean an entire weekend of time away, but just something for me. Maybe the includes going to the gym, grocery shopping, taking a walk… Just getting away for a bit.

Having those moments to myself work to get my mind back in place. Re-centering is so important when us parents have to be so focused on the safety, happiness, and development of our little loved ones.

I’ve been taking time to read, take naps, exercise, and snuggle with my husband and/or cats. It makes those moments I am reunited with my baby that much more wonderful.

What do you do to refresh away from the little ones or your daily duties?

(L) Love You Forever

I wanted to do two L posts. 😀 I’m silly, behind, AND an over-achiever!

Love You Forever by Robert Munsch is the first book from my childhood that had a seriously profound impact on me. There’s something musical about the word crafting throughout, along with simple, yet effective, illustrations that pulled me in. Every single time. I remember the joy through read alouds and then a deep sadness at the end of the story. I think this story actually played a role in why I am who I am. 
It’s funny that something seemingly so small can affect us at such a young age. Books change us, regardless of our years here. 

What book do you remember the most from childhood? Why?

(L) Little Things

Little feet
Tiny toes
Squishy cheeks
Stylish clothes

Funny socks
Up to your knees
Cooing loudly
Kicking your feet

A breath away
From where you are
We love you so
Our shining star

(Written by me. Belongs to me. Give me credit if you use this for anything, please. Definitely not my best work, just spur of the moment.)

(K) Kids!

Good ol’ Bye Bye Birdie! I love that there are musicals like this that just capture how timeless certain things are.

I ever thought I’d be one of those adults talking about how disrespectful kids are, or that their noses are always in their phones. But it’s happened. I’ve officially become an adult. Heck, most adults are just as rude.

Where do you think the kids get it from?

(A just-for-fun post brought to you by the letter K.)

I’m baaaaaack!!!

I am officially done with projects and schoolwork for the rest of the summer, unless I decide to take some courses outside of my graduate program of human resources management. We’ll see!!

Anywho, looking forward to catching up on A to Z today and through the weekend!  Prepare for some awesome, relevant posts over here at Steps In Mommyhood! Y’all still with me?

And now, for your viewing pleasure… Here’s my cat (Winky) in a box.


A to Z Update

Just a quick note – I am finishing up a large project for one of my grad school classes, so my A to Z posts for these next couple of days may be a little wonky. Rest assured, they will be back in full force!! Until then, please share one of your favorite memories from childhood with me in the comments below!

(J) Jokes


Today’s post for the A-to-Z Challenge is brought to you by the letter J! 

This post is for BabyJ. My little muffin. Some jokes for you all.